Whether or not to be nice to my big family is a decision I have to make daily.
Long ago I realized that we as women can be life-givers, or we can bring death. While we carry human life in our bodies, we can also speak words that kill.
I don’t know about you, but before I had children I was not a naturally cheerful person. It was always so much easier to work for darkness, and I was so immensely equipped to be filled with negativity and bring others down.
But no matter what our natural tendencies, we need to choose what side we will work for; the kingdom of darkness or the kingdom of light.
So how do we do it?
- Every morning, as soon as you realize it is morning, don’t begin by thinking about how good and kind you are going to be–that is a great way to ensure that you will fail miserably.
- Instead, focus your thoughts on God–God as He expresses Himself in the Bible as being full of comfort, lovingkindness, forgiveness.
Blessed be God, even the Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies, and the God of all comfort
2 Corinthians 1:3
- Imagine that Jesus is right there beside you, as He said in His Word, “Lo, I am with you always, even to the end of the age.” Fix your entire gaze on Jesus, just as the Apostle Paul said, “Looking to Jesus, the Author and Finisher of our faith.” If you will do this, your own, nasty, grumpy, tired self will melt away, and the grace of God will flood your heart and your mind.
- Next, put those feelings and thoughts of goodwill to use by greeting your family members with cheerfulness, allowing yourself to be a conduit to put God’s courage in their hearts for the day ahead. As you give it away, it will grow bigger in you.
A generous person will prosper; whoever refreshes others will be refreshed.
- Act like you are cheerful and loving and amazingly patient and understanding, even if your conscience tells you you aren’t being “real.” This really works, believe me! Even if your emotions don’t kick in at first, your spirit will eventually gain the upper hand and you will begin to become the wonderful person inside that you portray on the outside.
Then, after your insides are beautiful, you can dress up your outsides to match!